No dating during codependency recovery

In the end, when it finally dawned on me that my partner was good in bed only because he’d been practicing outside of the relationship and fucking hate him for that.Narcissists like my ex use addictive sex to snag, keep, and eventually devalue their victims.Even though we see the signs of a narcissistic personality, we don’t want to give up.We still want this person to love us back even The time for recovery from narcissist abuse is now, my friends.At each stage, there is often a decision (sometimes more thoughtfully arrived at than others) to move forward or to end the relationship.Some stages take longer than others to go through and some people take much longer at each stage.One time, during a break-up that I actually initiated, the N sent me an email that was very telling: Really?

“How can you think it’s okay to ask for sex after what you just said to me?? His typical matter-of-fact response was to simply lay down on the bed and pat the area beside him.The narcissist knows that if the sex is consistently good, it’s likely we’ll allow it to override the bad stuff.In other words, the sex becomes the narcissist’s benefit of the doubt for everything he’s done, is doing, and even plans to do.In relationships where sex is withheld by the narcissist, victims will often admit that the sex itself – when it finally happens – is not necessarily even that good.The dynamic of the narcissistic manipulation becomes a matter of victims becoming desperate for what they can’t have and the narcissist knowing it.

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